Turning Point Moments!

Glenn Smyly
Turning Point Moments:

We all have had very powerful turning Point Moments in our life. A Turning Point Moment is when a very emotionally upsetting circumstance occurred in our life and we made a decision that altered the direction our life was headed for.

That event was so upsetting and so emotional that we took a stand and spoke very powerfully about what was true for us and that stand became a self fulfilling prophecy.

Some of us are living our life based on one or more of these turning point moments from so long ago we can’t even remember the event that happened. Most of us however, can and do remember the event, the emotion, ie: shame, guilt, embarrassment, etc, and the decision we made about our life at that time. We now can see the results of that decision in our life today.

One of the turning point moments in my life happened when I was in high school.

When I was between 9 and 12 years old I played Little League Baseball and I was pretty good at it. I played catcher and third base and I made the All Star Team each year I played. Then in Middle School I was the best player on the team with the highest batting average and player of the year. My dream was to be a professional baseball player.

Now when I got to High School I was all excited to try out for the schools baseball team. I was confident that I would make the team easily. I was good don’t you know.

Well on the day of tryouts, my Turning Point Moment happened.

In the locker room when getting dressed for try outs, the rawhide string that held the fingers on my glove together broke. This was the same glove I had used for all those years playing ball and the glove was really worn out. I didn’t know what the impact of that rawhide string breaking on the glove would have on my ability to field ground balls but I wasn’t worried. I knew how to field grounders.

When the coach started infield practice, I was the first player to try out for third base. When he hit the ball to me I went for it, it hit my glove and bounced right back out. “Oh well” I thought, I will get the next one. He hit the ball to me again and the ball bounced right back out of my glove. I missed it again. This went on for 5 times with the ball bouncing out of the glove each time. After missing 5 straight times I was so embarrassed and humiliated I walked off the field and never played baseball again.

That event was a turning point in my life. I could have communicated with the coach, showed him my broken glove, asked him for a catcher’s mitt and continued with try outs but I didn’t. I walked off the field and never played again.

The dream I had of being a professional base ball player was gone, just like that. My life turned in a different direction based on what I said or didn’t say at that time. I know that if I had played baseball my life would have had a very different outcome than it has had. I wouldn’t have been able to help so many people in my seminars, workshops and retreats.

So what I am saying is that you have powerful turning point moments in your life that have changed the direction of your life. If you can recognize them you can discover your own personal power that you used to change the direction of your life in those moments. Your own personal power was invoked to change the very course of you life.

Make a list of some of the main turning point moments of your life:

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Now go over each one and notice how your response to each one of those moments changed the course of your life. Then notice how each one of those turning point moments brought you to where you are in your life right now.

Does noticing how you made the decisions you made in the midst of emotion bring about the circumstances of you life to be exactly the way they are and exactly the way they aren’t empower you to recognize that you have the power to change the direction of your life today?

By giving your word with emotion you can alter the circumstances, events, and situations facing you in your life today. If you look at your life, are the circumstances in your life happening the way you want them to? If not give your word with emotion to change them to how you truly want them to be.

Remember when we give our word with emotion, when we take a stand, it invokes our personal power and the circumstances happen the way they do to make us right about that stand.

For more information on our books, CD’s and Downloads come to our web site www.careapy.com.

Till next time,

Glenn Smyly, Director of Alivening, LLC




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New Private Mentoring/Life Coaching Mini Series

We are currently accepting new clients to assist and support in overcoming some of the challenges they are facing by providing a month long series of weekly phone coaching consultations and mentoring sessions.

Beginning the first week of August we will provide clients private one on one coaching sessions with your choice of either Glenn or Barbara to address specific challenges you might be facing.

Issues to be addressed are Relationship, Parenting, Career, Spiritual, Personal Transformation, Habit Control, Money, Overcoming Fears, Physical Conditions and any other personal areas of concern.

We will use all of the tools we have available to assist you in discovering the underlying issues causing problems for you and to complete these issues. These tools include Breathing Techniques, Light Hypnosis, Emotional Freedom Techniques, Visualization and Guided Imagery Sessions, Regressions and whatever else is wanted and needed.

If you are committed to resolving an on going problem in your life, and are ready to deal with it, these coaching/mentoring sessions are perfect for you.

Please call 813 996-3659 for more information or to reserve your time slot for your weekly phone coaching/mentoring sessions with Barbara or Glenn.

Thank You,

Glenn and Barbara Smyly
Mentors, Life Coaches and Careapist
Alivening, LLC
PO Box 1368
Land O Lakes, Florida 34639
www.careapy.com email = glenn@careapy.com

Top Ten Ground Rules for Arguing in Relationship

Top Ten Ground Rules for Arguing in Relationship:

Every game we play, every business we conduct and every career we participate in have a set of ground rules that helps us play the game successfully. We also need a set of ground rules for arguing which helps us have a successful, happy and loving relationship.

Here are Our Top Ten Ground Rules for Arguing in Relationship:

1) Never say anything in the midst of upset you do not absolutely mean!

When we speak in the midst of emotion what we spoke becomes a “Stand”. A stand is very difficult to change because when we spoke it there was such a great deal of emotion present. Sometimes when we are upset with our partner we know exactly which buttons to push, which areas will get the other person upset and we say something that we don’t really mean however, when the upset is over we can not take back what we said. It still hurts.

2) Never leave each other’s company with an upset between us!

When you leave your partner with an upset between you the upset goes with you into your next interaction, stays with you the rest of the time you are away from each other and is still present when you come back together again. It is far better to complete the upset immediately than to have it carry over to later.

3) Never go to sleep at night with an upset between you!

When you go to sleep upset it affects the quality of your sleep. It can create insomnia, restlessness, anxiety, bad dreams and may keep you from a restful sleep. If you have a ground rule that you have to resolve upsets before you go to sleep it insures that one of you will have to, “get off it”, surrender your opinion or you may just agree to disagree so that you can get some sleep.

4) When we have a difference of opinion, we surrender to which ever opinion will further our relationship the most!

We have found that most upsets in Relationship are caused by one or both parties wanting to be right about their opinion. Would you rather be right or Alive and In Love? If we have trouble determining whose opinion will further our relationship the most, we may also bring in a third party that we love, respect and trust and ask them to tell us which opinion they think will forward our relationship the most.

5) We are always committed to our partner having what they want and ask for!

When our partner wants something and we want them to have it then we can give it to them easily. When what we want is for them to have what they want we get what we want by giving them what they want.

6) Each of us will ask for what we want and take what we get joyfully!

We never ask our partner for something we know they couldn’t possibly give us and we do ask them for things that might make them stretch in order to give it to us. Unfortunately your partner is not a mind reader and unless you are willing to ask for what you want they will not be able to satisfy your wants and needs.

7) When ever our partner is upset we look at our self to find out why we are having them be upset!

We examine how it is that we are behaving and how we are responsible for causing this person we love the most to be so upset. When we determine which behaviors are causing our partner to be upset we can then apologize and change those behaviors.

8) Whenever we are upset we ask our partner what they see going on with us that is causing us to be so upset!

We cannot see our self. All we can see is the affects of our behavior. When our partner tells us what they see going on with us and we make them right about what they have told us, suddenly we will clearly see the behavior that is causing the upset for us. We can then change the behavior and the upset dissolves.

9) We keep our partner present with us even when we are not physically together!

When ever we are away from our partner we think of them, we talk about them to the people we are with, we take their picture with us and include them in conversations we are having with others.

10) We physically demonstrate our love for them to make our love real in the world!

Physical ways of demonstrating our love when we are apart include sending flowers, writing love letters, sending texts messages or tweets, taking them out to our special place, enjoying candle light dinners together and treating them like the king or queen they are.

These are some of the ways we use to keep our Relationship Special. We hope you will implement them in your relationship. If you have any questions, would like to order our books or home study courses or just want more information come to our web site, http://www.careapy.com/ or email us at glenn@careapy.com .

May all your hopes wishes and dreams come true! Good Luck and God Bless You,

Glenn and Barbara Smyly

What is Love?

I have received a number of positive emails from people following this Blog and some of them have requested more articles so I am writing this one in answer to their request.

What is Love?

I once facilitated an evening seminar on the topic of “What is Love?” and thought I might share with you some of what we discovered about love in that seminar.

When I asked the participants the question, “What is Love?” the responses were as varied as the number of people in the seminar. Everyone had a vague idea about what love was but couldn’t quite explain it. So I ask you the question now, “What is Love?”

Please pause in reading this article for a moment and on a sheet of paper write the statement, “Love is” then listen to the next thought your mind has and write it down. Then repeat the statement “Love is”, over and over in your mind and each time listen to the next thought your mind has and write it down. Do this for a couple of minutes and write down everything your mind thinks about love.

Next go over the list and evaluate it. What is your core belief system about love? Is it positive or is it negative? Does it support you in having love in your life or does it guide you into a life without love.

Now here is what we discovered about love in our seminar:

Love is an experience we have in our body when we are in balance mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally. That experience is there in our body all the time waiting for us to bring it out. It doesn’t come from other people, it comes from us and we are selective about whom we share it with. Why not shower it on everyone?

Let us take a look at these four sectors and find out what love is in each area so we can then balance our self in that area.

Mentally love is having the person we love be perfect exactly the way they are and exactly the way they aren’t. We must give up all of our minds judgments, evaluations, comparisons and the decisions we have made about them. We must view them as perfect divine spiritual beings just as they are and just as we are. Then act accordingly with them.

Physically love is serving the one we love completely one hundred percent with no thought of what is in it for us. It becomes more important to us that they have what they want and need than it is for us to have what we want and need. We look over at the one we love and discover what they want and need and we provide it for them. Flowers, candy, cloths, jewelry, a hug, listening to them when they need to talk, great sex, putting them to bed when they are worn out so they can rest and assuring them you will take care of everything while they are resting are all ways you can demonstrate your love for them physically.

Spiritually love is being surrendered to God, or that power that is greater than us. It is important we have a way to release our worries, doubts and anxieties by giving them up to God. Coming from, “Thy will be done, I surrender to serve you”, builds a firm foundation for us to be alive and in love. We begin to listen to the soft voice in our head and follow its direction. We ask God to speak through us and act through us to love all and serve all.

Emotionally we experience love when we open our heart. Our heart has no questions and our mind has no answers. If you are asking a lot of questions you know you are in your mind surviving and not your heart being alive and in love.

Because of times when we were hurt we have shut down our heart and walk around living in our mind. We begin judging, evaluating and comparing our self to others but we are not fully alive. We can not shut down just a part of our heart. When we shut down any part of our heart we shut down our entire heart. If we will not allow our self to feel angry when we are angry we also can not feel happy. If we will not allow our self to feel sad when we are sad then we can not feel bliss or ecstasy either. We can not shut down just a part of our heart.

When we do open our heart we are at risk, we could get hurt. With our heart open we become vulnerable, passionate, intimate and at risk but we are fully alive. Would you rather be living from your heart and be alive and in love or be in your mind being right? Good questions.

So to really experience what we call love we have to pay attention to each of the four sectors, Our Mind and it’s thoughts, Our Physical experience, Our Spiritual Connection and Our Emotional area, Our Heart, and make sure we are in balance in each of these areas. Then we can experience True Love.

One Day Seminar Program

One Day Seminar Program Starting Sunday July 12th, 10 AM –3 PM

Barbara and Glenn are happy to announce the continuation of the powerful “One Day Seminar Program” here in Florida and they would like to invite you to join them.

The topic for the July Session is ‘Finding the Positive in Negative Environments”!

The seminar is at their home in Land O Lakes. Please bring your favorite covered dish as we share a great meal together. The cost is still $60.

This Seminar is open to anyone who would like to improve themselves, their life and their direction in life so please invite your friends, family and loved ones to come with you.

This seminar is designed to support all who attend as they support everyone else in the program and are supported by everyone in the program.

We Wish You Much Love, Peace, Health and Prosperity Always!

To reserve a space in the One Day Seminar, for directions or if you have any questions please call us at 813 996-3659.

Our Favorite Fairy Tales Become a Self Fulfilling Prophecy:

When we were young most of us had a favorite Fairy Tale and what ever that story was we identified with one of the characters. As adults we now are acting out that character in our life.

In the story Cinderella, did you identify with or see yourself as Cinderella? Or did you identify with the ugly step sister or how about the cranky old step mother.

Which ever one you most identified with as a child has a lot to do with the way you live your life today. The influences of that character permeate through out your life.

We seldom recognize how we are acting out the role of a character we related to in our favorite Fairy Tale. We just think this is how we are; not realizing it is only because we said so.

For instance if you loved the story Cinderella and you wanted to be Cinderella then as an adult you would live your life along the story line of Cinderella.

What would that look like? Well Cinderella was a victim, a victim of her wicked step mother and step sisters. Do you go through life feeling like you are a victim of other people in your life?

Cinderella had to work, work and work some more with little or no acknowledgement. Do you work, work and work some more and receive little or no acknowledgement?

Cinderella was looking for a prince charming to come rescue her and take her away from her horrible life. Are you waiting for a prince or princes charming to come rescue you and take you away from your boring life?

Are you looking for a Fairy Godmother to take away all of your problems and make your life wonderful?

We suggest that you think about your favorite story when you were growing up and see if and/or how that story is being acted out in your life today.

If the circumstances in your life today are similar to the hero or heroin in your favorite children story you might want to rewrite the story so that you can have your life be the way you want it to be today.

Sit down right now and write a new positive, powerful and wonderful Fairy Tale for your life to become today. As you continue to affirm your new story, your life will begin to demonstrate the qualities of the new story.

You have the power, you are the author, you are the actor or actor in your very own Fairy Tale. Make it wonderful, magical and powerful and enjoy your new life.

Sincerely,

Glenn Smyly

The Economic Recession Can and Will Be Resolved Within 30 Days!

To: An Open Letter

February 28, 2009

Hello,

I declare that within thirty days we will resolve the economic crisis facing our people and our country. With your help and the help of all concerned citizens we can and will resolve the current economic problem facing our nation easily and effortlessly.

The government has not solved the problem in our economic crisis because they have not identified the problem. They are throwing billions of dollars at the symptoms of the problem and yet the problem is growing worse every day.

Every intelligent business person knows that there is a five step problem solving method:

1) Identify the problem

2) Brainstorm for solutions

3) Pick one of the solutions

4) Take action and implement the solution to the problem

5) Evaluate the situation, was the problem solved? If not go back to number 1 and identify the problem, then go through the problem solving method again and do this until the problem is solved.

We are all very familiar with the symptoms of our problem; we are seeing and hearing about them continually. Bank failures, job loss and unemployment at its highest level in years, foreclosure’s, the auto industry crisis and the credit crunch are all symptoms of a very real problem.

Our government is spending money like a drunken sailor, throwing huge sums of money on extended unemployment benefits, to bail out the banks, the auto industry, and to try to loosen up credit markets again, so people who can’t pay their debts now can get more credit that they won’t be able to pay back in the future either.

How is there effort a viable solution to our problem?


Now I have identified the real problem.

The real problem is that people are not generating enough income to pay all of their expenses.

The cost of goods and services has risen so quickly, (inflation) that people who were able to pay all their bills on time several years ago now find their income not enough to pay the increased cost for all of their expenses. Their income did not increase enough to keep up with inflation. This problem of lack of enough income has lead to the symptoms we now refer to as an economic crisis.

Having identified the real problem, I then brainstormed for a solution to this problem of people not generating enough income to pay all of their debts?

After brainstorming a number of solutions, I then chose one solution and took action on that one solution.

The solution I chose was to build a, “predictable, significant, substantial, monthly residual income generating system”. A copyright, patented, and trademark protected, residual income generating system. A system which provides people with the additional income they need, whether they are working, sleeping or playing.

If you build it they will come!

I have built that system, it is up and running, it works and it will resolve the economic challenges so many people are experiencing today, however, I need your help to achieve my goal of eliminating the economic crisis within thirty days.

You may find my system at www.afreemoneymakeover.com . This system is a resolution to the real problem people have, of not generating enough income.

At our website we help people improve their personal relationship with money by providing free on line money makeover lessons each month and we provide them with the opportunity to participate in our powerful, predictable residual income generating system. It is an easy effortless and simple resolution to the financial crisis people are going through.

We help them manage the emotional roller coaster caused by such unusual financial circumstances facing them, we also show them how to manage their mental gyrations and focus on positive outcomes to negative situations and we provide them with a powerful way to generate additional, significant, monthly residual income to supplement their income and take the pressure off of not being able to keep up with their bills.

Thank You, Glenn Smyly
Founder of www.afreemoneymakeover.com glenn@afreemoneymakeover.com 813 996-3659

Economic Crisis Resolved!

Economic Crisis Resolved!

The President, Democratic Congress and Senate are spending money like drunken sailors. There is no evidence that their spending has or will resolve the current economic crisis because they have not identified the problem. They continue to treat the symptoms i.e. – foreclosures, bankruptcies, bank failures and the auto industry failure etc.

The problem is, “There is a lack of income in our society right now.” With so many job losses, unemployment at its highest ever and the price for goods and services continuing to rise, people are not generating enough income to keep up.

People who have money are not spending it out of fear they won’t have enough later and so we are in a downward spiral.

There is however, a resolution in site. Through good old American Ingenuity, Entrepreneurship and Commitment to help others we have discovered some ways out of this economic mess.

In Massachusetts a School System was being forced to fire a number of their employees due to lack of funds. They requested their workers forfeit one days pay a week so everyone could keep their job. Sixty percent of the workers agreed and thus no one lost their job. Each worker was willing to reduce their income by twenty percent but they still had their jobs and some income. They may have had to tighten their belts a little to make ends meet but their commitment to help each other resolved the problem.

Now we have developed a simple and easy way to help our self and others avoid foreclosure, pay our/their bills on time and even have some money left over each month.

Unlike the workers who gave up twenty percent of their income, in our plan people only have to give up one night at the movies a month or one “Latte” at Starbucks a week and everyone will be able to have the income they need to be responsible for paying their bills on time every time.

Would you like to receive over $5000 every month in residual income? Would $5000 a month help you pay your mortgage and other bills each month? Would you be willing to invest $19.95 a month to receive that kind of monthly income? If your answer is yes then come to http://www.afreemoneymakeover.com/ and take advantage of our resolution to the economic crisis.

Our plan provides you with the opportunity to help yourself and others receive that kind of residual income whether you are working, sleeping or playing.

The Free Money Makeover Plan is a tried and proven financial system that is a simple, easy and effective way to help you and others resolve the economic meltdown facing us all today.

Thank You,
Glenn Smyly, Founder of http://www.afreemoneymakeover.com/