New Private Mentoring/Life Coaching Mini Series

We are currently accepting new clients to assist and support in overcoming some of the challenges they are facing by providing a month long series of weekly phone coaching consultations and mentoring sessions.

Beginning the first week of August we will provide clients private one on one coaching sessions with your choice of either Glenn or Barbara to address specific challenges you might be facing.

Issues to be addressed are Relationship, Parenting, Career, Spiritual, Personal Transformation, Habit Control, Money, Overcoming Fears, Physical Conditions and any other personal areas of concern.

We will use all of the tools we have available to assist you in discovering the underlying issues causing problems for you and to complete these issues. These tools include Breathing Techniques, Light Hypnosis, Emotional Freedom Techniques, Visualization and Guided Imagery Sessions, Regressions and whatever else is wanted and needed.

If you are committed to resolving an on going problem in your life, and are ready to deal with it, these coaching/mentoring sessions are perfect for you.

Please call 813 996-3659 for more information or to reserve your time slot for your weekly phone coaching/mentoring sessions with Barbara or Glenn.

Thank You,

Glenn and Barbara Smyly
Mentors, Life Coaches and Careapist
Alivening, LLC
PO Box 1368
Land O Lakes, Florida 34639
www.careapy.com email = glenn@careapy.com

Top Ten Ground Rules for Arguing in Relationship

Top Ten Ground Rules for Arguing in Relationship:

Every game we play, every business we conduct and every career we participate in have a set of ground rules that helps us play the game successfully. We also need a set of ground rules for arguing which helps us have a successful, happy and loving relationship.

Here are Our Top Ten Ground Rules for Arguing in Relationship:

1) Never say anything in the midst of upset you do not absolutely mean!

When we speak in the midst of emotion what we spoke becomes a “Stand”. A stand is very difficult to change because when we spoke it there was such a great deal of emotion present. Sometimes when we are upset with our partner we know exactly which buttons to push, which areas will get the other person upset and we say something that we don’t really mean however, when the upset is over we can not take back what we said. It still hurts.

2) Never leave each other’s company with an upset between us!

When you leave your partner with an upset between you the upset goes with you into your next interaction, stays with you the rest of the time you are away from each other and is still present when you come back together again. It is far better to complete the upset immediately than to have it carry over to later.

3) Never go to sleep at night with an upset between you!

When you go to sleep upset it affects the quality of your sleep. It can create insomnia, restlessness, anxiety, bad dreams and may keep you from a restful sleep. If you have a ground rule that you have to resolve upsets before you go to sleep it insures that one of you will have to, “get off it”, surrender your opinion or you may just agree to disagree so that you can get some sleep.

4) When we have a difference of opinion, we surrender to which ever opinion will further our relationship the most!

We have found that most upsets in Relationship are caused by one or both parties wanting to be right about their opinion. Would you rather be right or Alive and In Love? If we have trouble determining whose opinion will further our relationship the most, we may also bring in a third party that we love, respect and trust and ask them to tell us which opinion they think will forward our relationship the most.

5) We are always committed to our partner having what they want and ask for!

When our partner wants something and we want them to have it then we can give it to them easily. When what we want is for them to have what they want we get what we want by giving them what they want.

6) Each of us will ask for what we want and take what we get joyfully!

We never ask our partner for something we know they couldn’t possibly give us and we do ask them for things that might make them stretch in order to give it to us. Unfortunately your partner is not a mind reader and unless you are willing to ask for what you want they will not be able to satisfy your wants and needs.

7) When ever our partner is upset we look at our self to find out why we are having them be upset!

We examine how it is that we are behaving and how we are responsible for causing this person we love the most to be so upset. When we determine which behaviors are causing our partner to be upset we can then apologize and change those behaviors.

8) Whenever we are upset we ask our partner what they see going on with us that is causing us to be so upset!

We cannot see our self. All we can see is the affects of our behavior. When our partner tells us what they see going on with us and we make them right about what they have told us, suddenly we will clearly see the behavior that is causing the upset for us. We can then change the behavior and the upset dissolves.

9) We keep our partner present with us even when we are not physically together!

When ever we are away from our partner we think of them, we talk about them to the people we are with, we take their picture with us and include them in conversations we are having with others.

10) We physically demonstrate our love for them to make our love real in the world!

Physical ways of demonstrating our love when we are apart include sending flowers, writing love letters, sending texts messages or tweets, taking them out to our special place, enjoying candle light dinners together and treating them like the king or queen they are.

These are some of the ways we use to keep our Relationship Special. We hope you will implement them in your relationship. If you have any questions, would like to order our books or home study courses or just want more information come to our web site, http://www.careapy.com/ or email us at glenn@careapy.com .

May all your hopes wishes and dreams come true! Good Luck and God Bless You,

Glenn and Barbara Smyly

What is Love?

I have received a number of positive emails from people following this Blog and some of them have requested more articles so I am writing this one in answer to their request.

What is Love?

I once facilitated an evening seminar on the topic of “What is Love?” and thought I might share with you some of what we discovered about love in that seminar.

When I asked the participants the question, “What is Love?” the responses were as varied as the number of people in the seminar. Everyone had a vague idea about what love was but couldn’t quite explain it. So I ask you the question now, “What is Love?”

Please pause in reading this article for a moment and on a sheet of paper write the statement, “Love is” then listen to the next thought your mind has and write it down. Then repeat the statement “Love is”, over and over in your mind and each time listen to the next thought your mind has and write it down. Do this for a couple of minutes and write down everything your mind thinks about love.

Next go over the list and evaluate it. What is your core belief system about love? Is it positive or is it negative? Does it support you in having love in your life or does it guide you into a life without love.

Now here is what we discovered about love in our seminar:

Love is an experience we have in our body when we are in balance mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally. That experience is there in our body all the time waiting for us to bring it out. It doesn’t come from other people, it comes from us and we are selective about whom we share it with. Why not shower it on everyone?

Let us take a look at these four sectors and find out what love is in each area so we can then balance our self in that area.

Mentally love is having the person we love be perfect exactly the way they are and exactly the way they aren’t. We must give up all of our minds judgments, evaluations, comparisons and the decisions we have made about them. We must view them as perfect divine spiritual beings just as they are and just as we are. Then act accordingly with them.

Physically love is serving the one we love completely one hundred percent with no thought of what is in it for us. It becomes more important to us that they have what they want and need than it is for us to have what we want and need. We look over at the one we love and discover what they want and need and we provide it for them. Flowers, candy, cloths, jewelry, a hug, listening to them when they need to talk, great sex, putting them to bed when they are worn out so they can rest and assuring them you will take care of everything while they are resting are all ways you can demonstrate your love for them physically.

Spiritually love is being surrendered to God, or that power that is greater than us. It is important we have a way to release our worries, doubts and anxieties by giving them up to God. Coming from, “Thy will be done, I surrender to serve you”, builds a firm foundation for us to be alive and in love. We begin to listen to the soft voice in our head and follow its direction. We ask God to speak through us and act through us to love all and serve all.

Emotionally we experience love when we open our heart. Our heart has no questions and our mind has no answers. If you are asking a lot of questions you know you are in your mind surviving and not your heart being alive and in love.

Because of times when we were hurt we have shut down our heart and walk around living in our mind. We begin judging, evaluating and comparing our self to others but we are not fully alive. We can not shut down just a part of our heart. When we shut down any part of our heart we shut down our entire heart. If we will not allow our self to feel angry when we are angry we also can not feel happy. If we will not allow our self to feel sad when we are sad then we can not feel bliss or ecstasy either. We can not shut down just a part of our heart.

When we do open our heart we are at risk, we could get hurt. With our heart open we become vulnerable, passionate, intimate and at risk but we are fully alive. Would you rather be living from your heart and be alive and in love or be in your mind being right? Good questions.

So to really experience what we call love we have to pay attention to each of the four sectors, Our Mind and it’s thoughts, Our Physical experience, Our Spiritual Connection and Our Emotional area, Our Heart, and make sure we are in balance in each of these areas. Then we can experience True Love.

One Day Seminar Program

One Day Seminar Program Starting Sunday July 12th, 10 AM –3 PM

Barbara and Glenn are happy to announce the continuation of the powerful “One Day Seminar Program” here in Florida and they would like to invite you to join them.

The topic for the July Session is ‘Finding the Positive in Negative Environments”!

The seminar is at their home in Land O Lakes. Please bring your favorite covered dish as we share a great meal together. The cost is still $60.

This Seminar is open to anyone who would like to improve themselves, their life and their direction in life so please invite your friends, family and loved ones to come with you.

This seminar is designed to support all who attend as they support everyone else in the program and are supported by everyone in the program.

We Wish You Much Love, Peace, Health and Prosperity Always!

To reserve a space in the One Day Seminar, for directions or if you have any questions please call us at 813 996-3659.